Cooperate With The Inevitable

inevitableIF ever there is one prayer that should serve as an anchor in our daily living it should be this beautiful prayer written by Dr. Reinhold Neibuhr. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”
As we walk along the lanes of life, we cannot avoid the inevitable or the scenarios that are beyond our control. They may be unpleasant or painful. But what counts most is on how we react to them. We have the choice. Either we shout to high heavens why these things are happening or we just keep mum and remind ourselves that there must be a reason for all these.
William James, a philosopher, consoles himself by having this thought in his mind: “Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.”

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Dale Carnegie, interprets unpleasant happenings in life, in this manner, in his book, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living,” by saying: “As you and I march across the decades of time, we are going to meet a lot of unpleasant situations that are so. They cannot be otherwise, we have our choice. We can either accept them, or we can ruin our lives with rebellion and maybe end up with a nervous breakdown.” Obviously, circumstances alone do not make us happy or unhappy. It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings. We can all endure disaster and tragedy and triumph over them, if we have to. We may not think we can, but we have surprisingly strong inner resources that will see us through if we will only make use of them. We are stronger than we think.”
Some of us may have low threshold of patience and tolerance for this. Carnegie has this say: “I am advocating that we simply should not bow down to all the adversities that come our way. Not by a long shot! That is mere fatalism. As long as there is a chance that we can save the situation let’s fight! But when common sense tells us that we are up against something that is so and cannot be otherwise, then in the name of our sanity let’s not look before and after and pine for what is not.”
J.C. Penney, founder of the nation-wide-chain of Penny has this guiding thought when worries seemed to drain his energy: “I wouldn’t worry if I lost every dollar I have because I don’t see what is to be gained by worrying. I do the best job I possibly can, and leave the results in the laps of the gods. ”While K.T. Keller, the president of the Chrysler Corporation, had his own way of handling things when sailing was rough: “When I am against a tough situation, if I can do anything about it, I do it. If I can’t, I just forget it. I never worry about the future, because I know no man can possibly figure out what is going to happen in the future. There are so many forces that will affect that future. Nobody can tell what prompts those forces or understand them. So why worry about them!”
Though it is but natural that we can’t help but worry when unpleasant things happen, but for the good of our being may be we can teach ourselves to learn to face the inevitable right on its face.