imageIT is a fact that if there is one facet in life which is uncertain, it’s change. Whether we like it or not, changes occur in our lives, sometimes in the most unexpected moment.
Whatever changes occur in our lives, it is of paramount importance that we would be able to embrace it. “Book of Gold, Wise Ways to Health, Wealth and Happiness: 365 Daily Reflections to Enrich your Life” author Lilian Too, observes that not enough people think seriously about the inconstancy of life. They assume that things will never change, that circumstances will always stay as they are, until something tragic happens.
Too cites this scenario by saying: “Few of us anticipate our partner walking out on us, or being told we no longer have a job or losing a loved one forever and then it is too late. Picking ourselves up again will be that much harder for in our complacency we grow an attachment that sets the stage for intense suffering. It can lead to immobility when our lives get ripped apart.”
Dr. Trevor Powell, author of the book, “Stress Free Living,” has his own perspective too. He writes: “Changes, both big and little, sudden and gradual, affect your life from the moment you are born. You can learn to cope up with the small changes, but major life events can be stressful, because they disturb your routine and cause upheaval. If a major change occurs in your life, such as getting married or the death of someone close- a parent, child or partner- you have to rearrange the map of your life and adjust your internal circuit.”
Since being able to accept change can lead to emotional problems like depression, anger, resentment, or the inability to forgive. Powell offers the following ways to prepare oneself when changes occur.

  • Develop a positive attitude. Examine your attitude to change. Try to see it as opportunity and challenge that will make you a stronger and better person.
  • Find out as much as you can. The more information you have about the change, the more prepared you will be to deal with it, and therefore the less likely you will be to worry. Take time to think the whole matter over in a structured way, rather than worrying about details.
  • Express your feelings. Own up to your fears and excitement about the change both to friends and to yourself. Avoid thoughts based on “should,” such as “I should be used to this now.
  • Develop a plan of action. Ask yourself how you can improve the situation. Look for potential losses and gains, then look at ways maximizing the losses. Try to visualize the result you want to achieve, then work out what you need to do to get there.
  • Look after your health. It is important to eat well during periods of change. Take plenty of exercise.
  • Rally your support network. Tell your friends and family how you feel about the change
  • Don’t take on too much. Learn how to delegate and say “no” to extra daily commitments.
  • Relax. Take time out to get away from the situation and allow emotional repair.